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28-Days of Self-Love (Day 28 Love Letter to Self)

“It`s not your job to like me – it`s mine.” – Byron Katie

Write yourself a love letter? What a profound idea!!! And if a single letter is a good idea, how about a self-love letter daily for 30 days?

Wow! Imagine what that would do for your self-esteem, for your self-love and for your very life! What might change if you felt appreciated, loved, and cared for by the most important person in the world…YOU?

To commit and follow through on a self-love letter daily for 30-days will take stamina, grit and precious self-love. Are you up for it? Of course you are. You are a woman who has taken the time to read 28-days of self-love. You have done the work and you are ready for the next step.

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”  – Buddha

I have added a couple of short self-love letters below for inspiration although I know yours will be even more powerful.

Dear Mary,

You are a powerful woman who knows how to be present even when the world spins out of control like it did today at work. Everyone gets off balance somedays but you come back quicker than most and I am proud of your stamina.

Your heart was open today when others asked for support…I really love that about you.

Your dreams are bigger than most, yet you take at least one action step toward them each day…kudos!

Love, Mary

Dear Jane,

I was so impressed that you said yes today even when your heart raced fast and you felt like you might faint…do not worry, no one noticed. You did not let your fear of public speaking damper your dreams. I want to tell you that you are awesome! And your speech is going to be great.

You took your son to the zoo today when you would rather have stayed home with your feet up. He was so happy and you made that happen. You rock his world.

Thanks for taking the time to write your gratitude list each night because it reminds you of what a great life you have. You amaze me!

Love, Jane

Now go write yourself a self-love letter…write for a full 30-days and see what changes in your life!

I hope you have enjoyed our 28-day journey of self-love and check my blog often for more posts about women who want to live bold and beautiful lives.  Hugs, Coach Judith

“Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it.”  – Thaddeus Golas

By Coach Judith McCool

28-Days of Self-Love (Day 21 Retreat at Home)

“You are the most important part of the family. Take care of yourself first. Then you’ll be able to take care of everyone else even better.”  — Deepak Chopra

Take a day off! Yes you, take a day off and go on a self-retreat. Do not wait until you can go to a special class or retreat center, do that too when you are able, but for now create your own retreat at home. Imagine spending a whole day or even a half day as if you were at the most luxurious spa in the world. You will emerge refreshed, energized and ready to be the best you that you can be!


Five Easy Steps to Retreat at Home:

  1. Hire a sitter or send the kids to grandmas. She probably wants to see the kids anyway. Send hubby too…you need to be alone!
  2. Collect all you will need for your special day. (Gather scented candles, soft music, bubble bath, journal, essential oils, and loads of pillows to create a nice nest. Gather whatever you need to make your day restful and filled with delight. How about that special novel you have wanted to read all year?)
  3. Give yourself full permission to take this time for you. (You may want to write up a contact saying that you are committed to taking care of yourself and you give yourself full permission to retreat. Sign it and hang it on the refrigerator as a reminder if you stray off course.)
  4. Decide when your retreat will start and when it will end. Give yourself a timeline and put the time in your self-contract. (This way you will not be tempted to throw in a load of laundry or do a quick stack of dishes…you are fully on retreat.)
  5. RETREAT NOW! Listen to the stillness. Hear yourself breathe in and out as you begin to discover YOU! (For the time allotted do whatever fills you up. Read, rest, write, draw, sleep, and soak in the bathtub or skinny dip in the neighbor’s pool…only kidding, unless they are not home. Chuckle…but you get the idea; let your imagination decide how your retreat will be. ONLY ONE RULE…NO ELECTRONICS!! PERIOD!…No phone, TV, iPad or computer. BE ON RETREAT AND ENJOY!!!!

Being on retreat is one of the best ways to foster self-love. And it is so delightful!

“Our soul is like a soft and gentle flower, it needs to be nurtured, cared for, tended to, with sufficient sunlight, fresh air and freedom to bloom into its most precious and beautiful form. This, my friend, is self-love.” ~ Miya Yamanouchi

By Coach Judith McCool

28-Days of Self-Love (Day 11 Self-Care)

“Do you really want to look back on your life and see how wonderful it could have been had you not been afraid to live it?” ― Caroline Myss

Do not fear self-love. It is not about you being better than anyone else or about you being selfish. It is about you getting to know your whole self. Your inner and outer world becomes one. Love what is! You are worth the effort.

Self-care as a catalyst for self-love! Sometimes life gets so busy that self-care feels impossible. Most likely, that is not true. What is true is that you stopped paying attention to your needs. Everything and everybody else seemed more important. Today is the day YOU achieve the impossible and you start on a journey of true self-care.

 “Achieving the impossible requires that you outwit your voice of reason and access the whimsical part of your nature that inherently delights in the possibilities of the imagination.” ― Caroline Myss

Three easy steps to Self-Care:

  • Set a strong intention to take better care of yourself. Write your intention in a journal, on a white board or even on your mirror. Put it somewhere you will see it each day. Make it a powerful intention statement something you can feel into. Example: I choose daily self-care to inspire and uplift my spirit. Or Self-care brings me joy each day and I am worth it!
  • Decide what type of self-care you need. You can start with baby steps. It does not have to take a lot of time or money. You can start by creating a cozy space filled with pillows and warm blankets as you form your nest. Snuggle in and read inspirational books or listen to soft music as you nap. It can be as simple as that or as big as a daily hour long Yoga practice. You choose.
  • Follow through. If you find you miss a day or two don’t get discouraged simply choose to begin again. Never beat yourself up for not taking action. This actually defeats the purpose.

 Always remember self-love ROCKS!

I will be back tomorrow.

By Coach Judith McCool

28-Days of Self-Love (Day 2 Synchronicity)

“I am open to the guidance of synchronicity, and do not let expectations hinder my path.”

~ Dalai Lama

Admit it now, you are curious. You are wondering, “What does synchronicity have to do with Self-Love?” Asked this question I would say, “Everything!”  I read a book several years ago that started me on a very deliberate path of paying attention to what people call coincidences. It did not take me very long to realize it wasn’t a coincidence at all, but synchronicity at play in my life. When I stated paying attention synchronicity showed up almost daily. The book I read was When God Winks…how the power of coincidence guides your life by Squire Rushnell.

Squire Russell calls these seemly random events God Winks…I call it synchronicity. You can call it whatever you like, just pay attention when it shows up.

I believe we are guided in this world. When you love yourself you want to give yourself every opportunity to live the best life available to you. This can happen exponentially as you pay attention to what synchronicities occur in your life.

Here is an example of a synchronicity. (Or God Winks)

  • You are trying to decide if you should apologize to your lover when your special song comes on the radio.
  • You are unhappy with your job and a colleague happens to mention his brother-in-law is leaving the very company you want to work for. If you follow this thread you just might get the interview before anyone else.

I didn’t even have to pay very close attention to synchronicity when I was getting divorced a couple of years ago. There were so many and they were so powerful that I couldn’t deny that I was getting a little push off the cliff and I was learning to fly.

Pay attention to any synchronicity that shows up in your life today and for the rest of the month. Jot them down and start connecting the dots. One followed often leads to more. Love yourself enough to truly pay attention to your life.

 I will be back with you tomorrow!!! 

By Coach Judith McCool (formerly Geiger)

28-Days of Self-Love (Day 1 Release Fear)

February is known as the Love Month…this year we are going to make it the Love Yourself month.

For 28 days you can check in on my Blog or Facebook page to receive tips and exercises to delight your senses and fill your heart with love.

Self-Care precipitates Self-Love so let’s practice self-care each day and see what changes occur in your life by the end of the month. Dramatic and inspiring changes are more than possible. The self-care I am talking about goes way beyond pedicures and massages, although those may be part of your month. What I intend with this posting is for you to reach deeper, reach into your very being.

If you are ready to journey with me for the month of February, then let’s begin:

Day 1


When you embark on a true self-care journey fear or resistance often shows up. This may manifest with you feeling a lack of time to participate. After all, every day for 28-days, who has time for that? Or you might feel odd about working toward loving yourself, isn’t that selfish? NO! Self-Love is not selfish.

The more you feel love and the more you take care of yourself, the more you have to give to others. On a cellular level you know this is true. Deep inside there is a place that your inner knowing lives. This is often accessed by the heart. Try this now! Take a deep breath, close your eyes, put one hand on your heart and ask yourself the following question. Am I ready for true self-love? Now listen closely…what do you hear? If you notice any angst, fear or resistance to participating in self-love then please try the exercise below. Often you first you need to empty out old limiting beliefs or patterns, before you can begin to fill yourself with love.

If no fear or resistance showed up then congratulate yourself…you are ready for this journey!

If you noticed any please try the following exercise:

Put Fear or Resistance on the Shelf

  • Sit in a quiet place where you will not be disturbed.
  • Close your eyes and imagine a large mason jar. It can be as big as you need.
  • Hold this jar in your imagination as your picture your fear or resistance. What does it look like, what color is it, how big is it?
  • With eyes still closed picture in your mind the fear flowing in to the jar. If the jar needs to be bigger, imagine it grows as your fear or resistance fills the jar.
  • When filled, put on the lid, and screw it tight.
  • In your imagination put this jar on a shelf in the corner. Leave the jar there for 28-days as we do this self-love work.
  • If you miss your fear or resistance you can visit it any time. It is still there safely on the shelf, you don’t need it to interfere with your journey to true self-love!

 I will be back with you tomorrow!!!

By Coach Judith McCool (formerly Geiger)


Busting the Myth that Self-Care is Selfish

2691401_s woman - light 10-Week Self-Care Challenge

Week # 10

I am few days late in posting the final weeks challenge. I almost never procrastinate so when I do I pay attention to WHY! I believe it is because I have enjoyed this 10-week journey with you so much that I don’t want it to end. I must admit finding an appropriate video each time was a challenge but enlarge it was a lot of fun. I hope you also enjoyed the series.

This final week is about a topic that is very dear to my heart. CREATIVITY! It is true that we are all creative. I did a 90 day blog challenge once to prove it. I blogged everyday on something I did that was creative.  You can read about it here. I was not artistic but I was fully me and I had fun!

What is creativity? According to Dictionary.com it is; the ability to transcend traditional ideas, rules, patterns, relationships, or the like, and to create meaningful new ideas, forms, methods, interpretations, etc.; originality, progressiveness, or imagination: the need for creativity in modern industry; creativity in the performing arts.

You do not need to be an artist, dancer, actor, or vocalist. You don’t even need to play an instrument to be creative. You only need to be you. Your thoughts are like no one else. Isn’t that an interesting idea? No two thoughts are exactly alike, yet we are always looking to others to validate our original ideas. It is a bit ironic, don’t you think? You judge your creativity by some other person’s standards.  Your unique self never gets a chance to express all it is. Today we are going to change all of that because starting now you are going to have the most creative week of your life. I give you permission to be all that you can be. Do you?

“Sometimes you’ve got to let everything go – purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything . . . whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it. Because you’ll find that when you’re free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.”    Tina Turner

Exercise Week Ten:

Spend the entire week being creative. You can use any method that you enjoy. Write, cook, invent, or make a product such as; jewelry, crocheted scarf, knit some mittens with your unique color scheme, the possibilities are endless. You are a creative soul. Express it in your own unique way.

For those who are saying, “I have no idea where to start.” Here are a couple of ways to jump start your creativity.

  1.  Set an intention to come up with an idea on how you want to create this week then go out for a meditative walk. Expect an answer by the time you return. See what wants to show up.

      2.  Answer these questions in a journal:

  •      What do I love to do that fills me with excitement?
  •      What did I love to do as a child?
  •      What is my soul longing to express?

The most important thing with this creativity exercise is; DO NOT JUDGE. Let it be a full expression of you.  You cannot do it wrong. Have Fun!

I want to congratulate you on finishing the 10-week challenge.

What did you notice? 

  •  Did you feel like you were being selfish?  
  • Do you have any new thoughts about self-care?
  •   How will you use what you have learned during our time together to move your life in a positive direction?

If anyone wants to chat about their experience then I would love to set up a call. Don’t let yourself get overly busy and forget to follow your heart when it comes to self-care. Be true to YOU!


By Judith Geiger

Busting the Myth that Self-Care is Selfish

6083669_s walking dogs10-Week Self-Care Challenge

Week # 9

Get up this week and get out! You have spent over eight weeks looking inward and caring for your body, mind and spirit. Today we look out and find something we can offer to another that will fill us with pure delight! It is very possible that before your eight week journey (so far) of self-care you were drained and even resentful of doing so much for others. If you have been following the program it might feel by now that you have enough reserve to share. When your own cup is full, only then, can you share the extra with delight. I hope you are feeling this way now. If not go back and do more for yourself until you do. For those who are ready let’s begin.

What organization could use your services, what rescue group needs a helping hand or what neighbor could use cheering up? I bet you do not have to think very long before you know just what act of service will fill you with delight this week. Could you babysit for a tired mom or one who wants to exercise but the toddlers are always in the way. What about going to the local animal shelter and walking a lonely dog? You could get your exercise at the same time.

To keep a lamp burning we have to keep putting oil in it.

Mother Theresa

Exercise week nine:

This week please carry out at least one act of service. You can make it a single act by helping someone you know or call up and volunteer at a place of your choice. The other option is to join a service group for ongoing acts of service.What ever you choose remember to use your heart and make it a pure joy!

One of my favorite organizations is Zonta International for women. “Founded in 1919, Zonta International is a global organization of executives and professionals working together to advance the status of women worldwide through service and advocacy.”

The young woman in this video is a wonderful role model. She started her acts of service before leaving high school. She is an inspiration to me. What about you?



By Judith Geiger