“You are the most important part of the family. Take care of yourself first. Then you’ll be able to take care of everyone else even better.” — Deepak Chopra
Take a day off! Yes you, take a day off and go on a self-retreat. Do not wait until you can go to a special class or retreat center, do that too when you are able, but for now create your own retreat at home. Imagine spending a whole day or even a half day as if you were at the most luxurious spa in the world. You will emerge refreshed, energized and ready to be the best you that you can be!
Five Easy Steps to Retreat at Home:
- Hire a sitter or send the kids to grandmas. She probably wants to see the kids anyway. Send hubby too…you need to be alone!
- Collect all you will need for your special day. (Gather scented candles, soft music, bubble bath, journal, essential oils, and loads of pillows to create a nice nest. Gather whatever you need to make your day restful and filled with delight. How about that special novel you have wanted to read all year?)
- Give yourself full permission to take this time for you. (You may want to write up a contact saying that you are committed to taking care of yourself and you give yourself full permission to retreat. Sign it and hang it on the refrigerator as a reminder if you stray off course.)
- Decide when your retreat will start and when it will end. Give yourself a timeline and put the time in your self-contract. (This way you will not be tempted to throw in a load of laundry or do a quick stack of dishes…you are fully on retreat.)
- RETREAT NOW! Listen to the stillness. Hear yourself breathe in and out as you begin to discover YOU! (For the time allotted do whatever fills you up. Read, rest, write, draw, sleep, and soak in the bathtub or skinny dip in the neighbor’s pool…only kidding, unless they are not home. Chuckle…but you get the idea; let your imagination decide how your retreat will be. ONLY ONE RULE…NO ELECTRONICS!! PERIOD!…No phone, TV, iPad or computer. BE ON RETREAT AND ENJOY!!!!
Being on retreat is one of the best ways to foster self-love. And it is so delightful!
“Our soul is like a soft and gentle flower, it needs to be nurtured, cared for, tended to, with sufficient sunlight, fresh air and freedom to bloom into its most precious and beautiful form. This, my friend, is self-love.” ~ Miya Yamanouchi
By Coach Judith McCool
“Thoughts are mental energy; they’re the currency that you have to attract what you desire. You must learn to stop spending that currency on thoughts you don’t want.” — Wayne Dyer
When you are feeling down and not sure how to access your self-love simply reach for your next best thought. “Reach for a higher vibration.” says, Ester Hicks from her book Ask and it is Given, learning to manifest your desires. One thing I understood from Ester and Jerry Hicks teaching is if you do not feel happy, wonderful and on top of the world today, it is OK. Just reach a little higher from where you are.
No one needs to go from zero to hundred overnight. Whatever stage you find yourself in emotionally reach for the next vibration or next best thought…Example: if you are feeling frustration reach for optimism or if you have made it up to boredom reach for eagerness. Love is on the highest vibrational scale and a place we would like to be at always, but we all know how life sometimes gets in the way. Our best recourse is to keep on reaching, until you can stay in the vibration of love longer and longer, regardless what is happening around you.
You can learn more about the vibration scale from readings of Ester Hicks or you can just keep reaching for your next best thought. Ask yourself, “What thought would feel better than the thought I am having right now? What thought would bring me closer to love? What thoughts are pulling me out of love for myself and others?” By asking these questions on a regular basis you are reaching for self-love and your next best thought!
By Coach Judith Geiger
“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” -Leo F. Buscaglia
We know forgiveness sets you free. We are true forgivers. Many times we have forgiven our loved ones for their miss-guided deeds or the painful hurts they have caused. We hold our heads high and say. “I forgive you!”
Yet, we do not forgive ourselves. It is not for a lack of knowing how, after all we have forgiven everyone else. We open our hearts, we send them love and we truly let go of old resentments. It is what we have been told is the “right” thing to do. We set our pride aside and start over because they deserve another chase. Why? Because we love them and we want them to be happy. We want to feel good when we are around them and that is hard to accomplish when tension is between us. So the understanding to forgive becomes a no brainer.
Then why is it so dog gone hard to give ourselves ‘the grace of forgiveness’. We go about beating ourselves up for both big and small mistakes we have made. After all we should have known better and done better. Shouldn’t we have? Accepting ourselves for who we are and understanding that we did the best we could with what we had at the time is so important.
If you want to practice self-love you need to start with forgiveness of self so you can feel good being around YOU!
By Coach Judith McCool
“To love yourself, truly love yourself, is to finally discover the essence of personal courage, self-respect, integrity, and self-esteem. These are the qualities of grace that come directly from a soul with stamina.” —- Caroline Myss
It takes a great deal of courage to dive into your interior world where self-love lives. When you really want to know yourself fully, you need to not only ask yourself questions, but listen when the answers are simply whispers from the heart.
Your heart wants to talk with you. Are you ready to listen? Insights gained from quiet Journaling can be life changing.
The journey into self-love can sometimes be a slow one. Be patient and kind with yourself.
- When I exercise my courage muscle what do I know I need to change?
- How can I to be delighted and fulfilled each day by being my most authentic self?
- What do I most need in order to give myself peace of mind?
- What mental, emotional or spiritual changes do I need to make in order to fully respect myself?
- Who do I need to ask to ‘please’ treat me better?
- What is the one step I can take starting today to move more fully into self-love?
“If your mother did not know how to love herself, or your father did not know how to love himself, then it would be impossible for them to teach you to love yourself. They were doing the best they could with what they had been taught as children.” — Louise L. Hay
By Coach Judith McCool
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says “I’m possible”! —Audrey Hepburn
Anything is possible because you are here. Each morning that you open your eyes is a brand new beginning. Your life is renewed each day. What you do with this renewal is up to you. Opportunities arise moment to moment and it is up to you if you decide to take advantage of them or shrink back and stay small. If you are ready to live a bold and beautiful life then NOTHING is impossible! Create a vision for your life and move into that vision one step at a time.
“A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it is an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more.” – Rosabeth Moss Kanter
Appeal to your better self now. Let yourself dream big, and when you are done, dream bigger. Step fully into the world of possibilities and direct your life with love! Love for self, love for others and love for the world! Love creates more love…make your stand for love today!
Remember a dream is only a dream without action. Take the first step now!
If you are stuck and feeling like you cannot move forward, then hire a Professional Coach. Someone who will support you without judgement, keep what you say confidential and hold you accountable to do what you say you want to do. Coaching by phone or Skype is empowering and motivational. You do not have to stay stuck. You can contact me for a free 30-minute consultation.
By Coach Judith McCool
“I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.” ― Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Your precious self needs you; it needs you to delight in all that is you. So many women do not see their value. They do not understand what is precious about them. Every woman is valuable and every woman is very precious! Once this is understood, truly understood, by every woman on this planet, the very energy of the world could shift.
In the world today it is estimated that there are over 3.5 billion women. Imagine what could shift if each one sent waves of self-love out into the world. What if, by loving themselves, they were able to heal the world in a way we have never seen before! IMAGINE!
If, as a woman, you understood how very important it was to honor, to value and to love yourself, would you try a little harder or reach a little higher for self-love? I believe you would!!
By Coach Judith McCool
“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.” – Dale Carnegie
Often the people I work with want to live more in the present moment and they find it hard to do. The reality is that it is easy! It is simply STOPPING long enough to connect with your breath, feel yourself in your body and notice everything around you. What is hard is remembering to do it on a regular basis.
I have designed some Journaling questions for you about living in the present. Take a little time to be with these questions. Light a candle and be very still and let the answers come to you, never force it. Connect with your breath, as if it was the only sound in the world, and deeply relax.
Once you are Relaxed start to Journal:
- What things make me anxious and pull me out of the present moment?
- What boundaries would support me to live peacefully and more in the present moment?
- How will my life change when I focus on my need to be present?
- How can I check-in with myself to witness if I am being present?
- Who will benefit if I live more in the present? How will things be different for them?
- How much time do I spend eating each day? What could I do to slow this down? (Mindful eating.)
Those are only a few, I am sure you can think if your own or do some stream of conscious writing about being present. Clear your mind of all thoughts, ask for guidance and start writing. You just might be surprised what you learn.
I have a friend who is very busy, a doctor taking care of everyone else. One autumn that was especially beautiful the leaves had turned spectacular orange, red and yellow. It was so abundant and completely breathtaking. I asked her what she thought and she said that she had been so busy that she had missed it all. Imagine she woke one day and realized the leaves had changed colors and fallen off without her enjoying their beauty. Do not let this happen to you. The more you pay attention to your life the more you can love it and in turn love yourself.
I will be back with you tomorrow!
By Coach Judith McCool